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Shane died at the age of 14. When I dream of him he often comes to me at this age. The age where I would hold and cuddle him as a baby.

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Sunday, October 5, 2008

I Reflect

Today I reflect on the recent loss of my step nephew. Although I can say I knew him on a personal level his loss has touched a cord. Remembering that raw pain the first few weeks. As I spoke with his mother, my stepsister, over the phone she reminded me of the things that people say that hit you in a deep and saddened way. It remined me of a poem on the sight and I thought it was worth repeating.

Please don’t tell me you know how I feel, Unless you have lost your child too,
Please don’t tell me my broken will heal, Because that is just not true,
Please don’t tell me my son is in a better place, Though it is true, I want him here with me,
Don’t tell me someday I’ll hear his voice, see his face,Beyond today I cannot see,
Don’t tell me it is time to move on, Because I cannot,
Don’t tell me to face the fact he is gone,Because denial is something I can’t stop,
Don’t tell me to be thankful for the time I had, Because I wanted more,
Don’t tell me when I am my old self you will be glad, I’ll never be as I was before,
What you can tell me is you will be here for me, That you will listen when I talk of my child,
You can share with me my precious memories, You can even cry with me for a while,
And please don’t hesitate to say his name, Because it is something I long to hear,
Friend please realize that I can never be the same,
But if you stand by me, your friendship will be my treasure

Thanks to Angel Moms.

1 comment:

Courtney said...

I like this poem too. It helps me understand what you are feeling.

-Courtney Petersen

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