Music of my Heart!

Shane died at the age of 14. When I dream of him he often comes to me at this age. The age where I would hold and cuddle him as a baby.

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Thursday, March 3, 2011

Is remembering your child dwelling or love?

I recently was told that I constantly dwell on my sons death and doing so is only depressing me and my family. Now this person barely knows me, but with that said, I felt compelled to reflect on that comment .
If you are a mother who has lost a child, I would love for you to leave a comment. Now, not a day goes by that I don't think of my son, Shane. I post pictures of him, when I feel impelled to do so, usually around his birthday and the anniversary of his death. On his birthday, I put together an afternoon with friends and family of music, we release butterflies and balloons after which all of his family goes out to eat to celebrate Shane's birthday. I also paint portraits of him, as he is not the only one I have painted, I have painted everyone in my family practically. I also have a Scholarship in his memory "Shane Ellis Southmont Band Scholarship" that I give out every year to a graduating senior. Finally the Shane Marches on Foundation, an instrument program that takes donated instruments and reconditions them and is loaned out to children who are in financial need.
I don't know about how you feel about this. But when I reflect on all I do, I feel I just am showing how much he was loved by us, family and friends, and that we always will remember him and that dwelling is never been a word that I would ever describe LOVE as Dwelling. But if Loving, and Remember is the same as Dwelling......Then I am Dwelling!!!!

Listen to In Memory of Shane

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To all who mourn…he will give beauty for ashes, joy instead of mourning, praise instead of despair. For the Lord has planted them like strong and graceful oaks for his own glory. …I cannot remain silent. I will not stop praying for her until her righteousness shines like the dawn, and her salvation blazes like a burning torch.” Isaiah 61:1-2a, 3 & 62:1b NLT
“…that time of darkness and despair will not go on forever. The people who walk in darkness will see a great light… For God will break the chains that bind his people…” Isaiah 9:1a, 2a, 4a NLT